That was Manohar venting his frustration about the state of affairs. Dulaari was the first women that he loved. It was Friday night and he had brought some diner for me.Me: Dekho Manohar..tumhara namak khaya hai ..Namak hai na is main? ( I was preparing for my punch line)
Manohar: Haan bhaiyya..namak dalaa hai hum ne.
Me: To bhaiyya Manohar , Tumhara namak khaya hai. Hum tum se wada karta hoon ke tum ko Pita ji aur Dulari se milwa denge.
Manohar: Kaise? Dulari ke to bacche hain Sahid bhai.
Me: Auraten Bacchen hone ke baad aur bhi khubsurat lagti hain…samjha karo…
Manohar: Kaisi baat karte hain aap? Uski saadi ho gayee hai aur us ka husband hai..
Me: Tum puri baat to bataya karo, accha husband bhi hai., khair -thodi Aloo Gobi aur daloo !
Manohar: Sahid bhai …Aloo Gobi to aur mil jayegi magar Dulari nahi miliegi…
Me: Who bhi mil jayegi – Ab jo milegi who bhi Dulari hi hogi. Jaante ho Jab se duniya bani hai. Tab se sirf ek Dulari hai aur ek Manohar hai…bas!
Manohar: Aap hamari khilli uda rahe hain ?
Me: Nahi hum sach keh rahe hain. Accha ye batao ke agar tumari shaadi Dulari se hoti to tum jab us ka gunghat uthate to kiya kehte?
Manohar: Hum kehte ke gaiyya kahaan bandhen?
Me: Chalo who hi sahi ( I was expecting more romantic line than this!) ok. Ab ye batao agar tumhari Shadi Radha se hoti to? ( I just came up with a clichéd name)
Manohar: Radha kaun? His eyes lit up at the "possiblity"!
ME: Radha koi nahi aise hi farzi naam hai. To kiya kehte tum Radha se?
Manohar: Wohi kehte
Me: Good. Accha shaadi Raziya se hoti to kiya kehte?
Manohar: Baar baar kiyon puchte hain..wohi kehte jo Dulari se kehte.
Me: Exactly. To bhaiiya ye samjh lo ke duniya main ek hi aurat hai aur ek hi aadmi hai.us ke naam alag alag hain….magar ek hi Dulari hai aur ek Manohar… Ab agli jo aayegi who bhi Dulari hi hogi…
It took Manohar a while to understand my point. In the end he was surprised and reluctantly agreed with me that we all say the same thing to every person that walks in our lives. We DO NOT love a particular Raziya or a Radha, we love A woman. Period. It could be anyone black, white or in between.
Come to think of it. If we would say the same lines to a Radha, Raziya, Rosie and Dulari then why we make so much fuss about a relationship? A farmer in India would say the same lines to his wife as a farmer in Poland. A CEO in Manhttan would repeat the same lines to his woman as a Mullah in Afgahnitsan or Iraq. Then why do we think we are better than others, our emotions are better then others and others do not have a right to life and happiness – just like us?
Ps: BTW I forgot to mention the other side of the story – every Dulari, Radha, Rosie, and Raziya would say the same lines to every Abdul Sattar, Joseph, Gurcharan, and Manohar that they would have to spend their life with.
This is how it is in the Love Lane…




























